Can You Hear Me Now?

When we examine the qualities that happy relationships have, whether it's a familial or relational kind of arrangement, a key ingredient always exists. If you have ever heard someone say, "he or she just gets me", they are saying one very important thing: That their perception of who I am and what I say is accurate.

I cannot stress this concept enough. In our busy world which incorporates so much outside stimuli, our inner world is very busy too. Our thoughts, and perceptions about everything are colored by a sort of tapestry that is comprised of so many different threads or elements. These elements consist of our attitudes, beliefs, personality traits, and memories. All of these things color and categorize the many types of input we receive. Having experienced this recently myself, I can tell you that even the most trained minds can fall prey to the insidious adversary of faulty perception.

Some of the best therapists, communicators, and leaders have the gift of empathy and objectivity, which allows for the listener to be completely present in what the communicator or sender is saying. So much so, that the listener is almost transported into the sender's own mind, viewing the words as a multidimensional sensory experience, and validating the sender's very core without the distraction of their own internal filters and biases. I call this ability a gift because it is an advantage in life, but not in the sense that you either have it, or you don't. This like any other interest can be learned and practiced vigorously.

In all the relationships we have, we design them based on a negative, and I don't really think most people realize they are doing it. When we think about past relationships and why they didn't work and what we don't want in any future relationships we are actually reinforcing the electromagnetic field in our immediate vicinity to continue to draw the past into our present and recreate the same past patterns over and over. How? The first thing we get on a sensory level when coming into contact with another person is a distinct feeling that begins to size that person up in our minds.This happens because their own field of energy is interacting with our own, communicating information about that person on the deepest of levels.

The key is to begin to envision wants and desires in the positive. I want my relationship to cultivate these_______ positive qualities. This is important in all relationships. I have seen this concept dramatically alter romantic relationships, and familial, even work relationships.This concept requires a divergence in thinking, a complete 180 degree shift from the current pattern of trying to manifest changes to this reality in the negative.The other element to this concept is practice. Your mind is a machine based on pattern recognition. Think about the word RE COGNITION (repeated thought process). It will be very hard to implement a new way of thinking based on the mind's ardent desire to repeat patterns. However with diligent practice, this shift can occur. New synaptic connections between neurons can form while the old ones are pruned away if they are consistently reinforced with diligent practice.

The concepts of true reflective listening, and being aware of the subtle fields of energy around us can greatly enhance the level at which we interact, and move in the worlds around us. I say "worlds" because each interaction is a voyage into the unknown regions of another person's planet, the shores of their sea, their mountains and valleys. Just as a vacation to a wonder of nature is a healing and rejuvenating experience, so can be the journey into another's world through conscious and reflective interaction. So now I ask you...

Can you hear me now?


Blessings,

Nicolina