On-going Consciousness

In the last post, we spoke about getting into a conscious relationship. Now, let's take that one step further. How do you stay in a conscious relationship? Even the best of the relationship experts will tell you that it can be just as difficult for those of us who know "how to" do it...what happens if you don't have all the tools/techniques you need?

We cannot emphasize strongly enough that in education there is not enough focus on how to have a good relationship. And I'm not just talking about a romantic relationship, but I'm talking about relationships with parents, with friends, with co-workers. Frankly, even having a good relationship to self is challenging.

So, what happens if you've been in a relationship for awhile, and you want a deeper level of connectedness. Do you have those friendships that just carry on and remain somewhat surface even though the friendship is not something you will walk away from? I had one of those a few years ago with my best friend whom has been in my life ever since the beginning of high school.

How were we as best friends? We got together once a month or so, we talked about work, things we were doing, how extended family members were doing. It was like any friendship, right? Probably, but it just didn't have enough depth for a best friend, or for even a dear friend. So, what did we do? Well, to be blunt, I requested she go to Landmark Education. And she did.

But why? Because our friendship was important enough for her and I to find alignment around communicating....I mean really communicating. Now, the depth of our friendship runs deeper than I have expected.

We can talk about anything and everything. We can talk about constipation, and ask for real "listening" to our relationship issues. We can challenge one another to reach higher. We can tell the other when we need the person to be blunt and tell us what we don't want to see. Or we can simply go for a walk to cut flowers for the table, or talk for long hours about our dreams.

My best friend and I didn't always have this. And I'm assuming there are others of you who may crave for more in your own relationships. Keep an eye out for future blogs on "deepening your relationships".

Here's to S.B. and another 20 years (of deep connected friendship),

Becky Shook-Wotzka