Where to Start in Relationship Design

Now that we've talked about the kinds of conscious relationships that are possible, how do we create them?

The most important step to getting started is to access what you really want, and by this I mean the Authentic You.

Often, what we "think" we want in a relationship is actually a list of traits or qualities that someone else has labeled as desireable -- your family, your community, or the media at large.

How many of us are taught to get quiet, to listen to our internal voices, and discern the difference between messages from our heart/ intution/ higher consciousness vs. our "mind" which mostly replays a series of pre-programmed ideas/beliefs? Often our mind and our intuition have conflicting or contradicting needs, desires, and beliefs. So the results we get in our relationships tend to reflect these confused and "muddy" inputs.

In my experience as a teacher, coach and counselor, this is the most important, and often difficult, step for people to take.

Working with someone skilled in quieting the chatter and helping you discern the voices of your inner committee is one way to move forward with confidence into a relationship that truly supports, challenges, and nurtures you in a healthy and joyful way.

Your journey is unique and the answers you seek are not to be found in a book or on a blog -- these are merely navigational tools to guide you toward your own inner reflection and that still, deep voice where the Authentic Self is waiting to reveal more and more of it's magic to you and the people in your life.

From this place of inner communion, the secrets of your Soul unfurl and transform all your relationships, drawing to you the perfect partner, friends, and community.

So how does a person begin to access the Authentic Self? There are many approaches and schools of thought. But what is most important is the experience.

So when you look back at times in your life where you felt(or knew) a calmer, wiser, more grounded part of yourself was providing you council, how did you access it? Can you repeat the process and experience that Self again?

Dawn Solem Hanley, M.A.
Founder and Educator at Break on Thru